This might surprise you, but the most important thing you can master when you are trying to learn how to attract a girl is your mindset. You have to have the right attitude and project strong, confident energy.The mindset that actually works in attracting women

The reason your mindset is so important is that girls can pick up on your positive or negative vibes. Negative vibes are a girl-repellent, but positive ones make you a chick magnet!

Here’s the kind of mindset to have.

1. You don’t have to prove yourself to anyone

Attracting girls isn’t a competition. Sure, it might feel like that sometimes when there are a lot of other hot guys around.

But keep in mind you want to attract the right girl for you. If some girls prefer other guys over you, then so be it. You don’t need to get validation from all the women you meet.

The right one will find her way to you without a lot of effort on your part *not that you don’t need to put in any effort in pursuing a relationship*. In other words, it will just flow naturally.

2. You are not addicted to an outcome

The kiss of death when it comes to attracting girls is a vibe of desperation and neediness. If you seem over-eager, then it’s guaranteed that women are turned off by you already. Ladies like confidence.

So, even though you might like this really interesting girl that you met, you need to have the attitude that you’re okay without her too. Hey, you’re not everyone’s cup of tea.

But no one is. So, just accept that fact and don’t get fixed on a certain outcome.

3. What value can I offer someone without expectations?

Just be in the present moment. Meet a girl, be friendly, talk to her, and learn more about her. Share information about yourself too.

The point should be to get to know someone to assess whether or not you’re a good match. You present who you are, she does the same, and then you see if she has something to offer you and vice versa. Don’t have any expectations either way.

4. Unapologetically honest mindset

Now, when we say “unapologetically honest,” we are not giving you a green light to be a jerk and say anything that’s on your mind.

You still need to have some tact and a filter so you don’t say anything wrong.

With that said, if you want to create a relationship with women, don’t say anything that isn’t true. If you’re a guy who doesn’t make a lot of money, that’s okay. Embrace it and be okay with it. Your open and honest attitude will make her have a similar one too.

5. Value your time to see if she’s worth it

Instead of having the attitude of, “Gee, I hope she likes me!” you need to be thinking, “Gosh, I hope I like her!” Do you see the difference between the two? The first one is desperate, and the last one is confident.

She might not be worth your time. So, that’s why you have to have this attitude. If she’s not, then she is preventing you from meeting a girl who is worth your time. Right?

6. Be yourself powerfully

In other words, don’t pretend to be anyone else. Be yourself at all times. Don’t pretend to have a high-powered job or a fancy car if you don’t. There is nothing wrong with who you are, and you need to project that attitude.

In fact, you should have the attitude that any girl would be lucky to have you! You are a catch! Own who you are, embrace yourself, and be happy in your own skin.

7. Compassionate and patient

If you act like a jerk – either because you really are one or because you are putting on a “bad boy” act – then that will be a turn-off for girls.

And the stereotype that all girls like a bad boy is just that – a stereotype and myth. To be honest, it might be time to forget about is, as not all girls do.

So, be compassionate, nice, and friendly. Be patient with her. Kindness goes a long way in life, especially in attracting a girl, and this is one of the best dating tips for men as you can never go wrong with kindness.

8. You embrace failures with confidence

All guys have struck out with girls. That’s just a fact. So, if it doesn’t turn out well with a girl you like, then you are not alone. All guys have been through it.

Don’t see it as a “failure.” Instead, see it as a learning opportunity. Ask yourself what you can do better next time, and then do it.

Also, see the “failure” as a gift, because the girl clearly wasn’t meant for you. Now you can go find the one who is.