We’ve talked about what sex feels like for a girl, but in truth, sex feels great in general. Of course, the situation around you has to be comfortable – if you’re not in the mood, you’re just not in the mood. But, when all parts of the jigsaw come together, sex is downright mind-blowing.Let’s break it down – why does sex feel good?
Sex is a bonding experience. It makes you feel closer to your partner, and it gives you spine-tingling O’s. Not to mention all of the chemicals whirling around your body telling you everything in life is fantastic.
But, to really pinpoint why sex feels downright amazing, let’s explore a few reasons.
1. It’s naughty
Sex is naughty by nature and helps you feel bolder than ever before. It’s called sexual tension for a reason. This slow build of sexual tension rises until you feel like you’re going to explode.
This makes it feel even sweeter when you finally have an orgasmic release.
2. It’s intimate
Getting to share yourself with a partner you care about is a mind-blowing experience, especially when orgasms are involved. Feeling someone’s passion for you as they touch your body and endeavor to make you feel good is a natural high that can be addictive.
3. An explosive orgasm is like nothing else in life
Obviously one of the biggest reasons why sex feels good is because orgasms are basically the best thing ever. Whether your orgasm is short, long, explosive, or comes in multiples, it’s going to be good.
Orgasms feel physically amazing, all while lowering depression, boosting feelings of closeness, and rocking your vagina, uterus, and anus in some blissful contractions.
4. It relieves stress
Who isn’t happier once experiencing an orgasm? Sex and orgasms combat anxiety, improve your mood, and reduce stress in the brain.
One study revealed participants who engaged in penetrative sex were able to handle stressful situations better than those who did not participate in any hanky-panky. Sex releases helpful endorphins and hormones that temporarily block pain and stress and leave you writhing in bliss.
5. The magic of bonding
Science shows that two minutes before climaxing the reward center in a woman’s brain becomes activated. Oxytocin also plays a major part in pleasure and bonding. During orgasm, a woman’s nervous system numbs so that the only sensation she feels is an explosion of lust and satisfaction.
This is also why sex is said to ease pains from period cramps!
Famously, oxytocin makes women fall in love. The release of this hormone triggers feelings of trust, empathy, and bonds women to their partners. Women produce more of this hormone than their male counterparts, which is why women often become emotionally attached after sex than men.
Regardless, this bonding experience can be addictive and make the sexual experience feel more pleasurable than it actually is.
6. Dopamine is dope
Dopamine is another part of your brain’s pleasure/reward system. It’s a “feel-good” hormone released during highly pleasurable situations like having sex, reaching orgasm, and even while you’re chowing down some tacos.
Physical touch with someone you care about, listening to music, exercising, minty scents, and even looking at contrasting colors all release dopamine in your brain!
Dopamine plays an important role in sexual behavior. Your brain on sex usually follows this pattern: arousal, motivation, and reward.
Because dopamine makes you feel good, it makes you want more of it. This is also why when we lose a source of dopamine *like a boyfriend* we tend to replace it with another source of dopamine *like an entire pan of brownies*.
7. Throw in some serotonin
Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that tells your brain when you’re happy, satisfied – and not to mention hot and horny! Serotonin is responsible for many other social behaviors and moods such as hunger, pain, and depression.
Men generally have lower serotonin levels, which raises the sex drive and accounts for men’s tendency towards raw sex. Women have higher amounts of serotonin, which increase oxytocin levels.
Whatever way you look at it, serotonin is a great buffer for sexy-time activities.
8. Prolactin makes you ultra-relaxed
Prolactin is a hormone released in the body right after your climax. This hormone sends powerful feelings of satisfaction throughout the body.
Basically, the sex felt so good that you worked yourself into an orgasm-induced mini coma!
What if sex doesn’t feel good?
Sex isn’t always mind-blowing. Sometimes, there are underlying reasons that stop a woman from enjoying a romp between the sheets. Let’s explore some of the most common reasons so you can understand the lady in your life a little better.
1. A fear of getting pregnant
Even if she’s on the pill, the moment he starts to grunt out, “I’m close,” her mind wanders to how she was 30 minutes late taking her pill last night.
Even if she’s on the edge of an orgasm, writhing in unison sometimes loses its touch when you worry about getting pregnant.
2. Fear of STIs
Hooking up with a hot guy last week seemed like a good idea when she drunk texted him. But when she sobered up she started to wonder if she should have been more thorough in her screening process. What if this guy has an STI?
Instead of enjoying the feelings of sex, she suddenly wonders if that bump on his shaft was normal or if it’s her cue to call her gyno in the morning. Fear of getting an STI ruins otherwise perfectly-pleasant hookups.
3. It doesn’t last long enough
If the man only lasts 10 minutes or less in the sack, odds are she won’t be anywhere close to finishing unless he’s done some impressive foreplay.
4. She’s just not into it
When she’s turned on, she knows it. She feels her skin flush, her underwear starts to soak, and she has a tingling sensation everywhere. That being said, if she’s not turned on, sex is probably going to be akin to doing squats for 20 minutes: Boring and painful.
While the vagina expands up to 200% when aroused, the average vagina is only about three inches long. If she’s not turned on not only will sex be a letdown, it might also hurt quite a bit.
5. It’s painful
When having rough sex or engaging in sex with a well-endowed man, a woman may have to take some extra precautions before getting down and dirty. For example, plenty of foreplay is necessary if the man is well-hung to allow the vagina to relax and expand enough to accommodate him.
6. She has an infection
A yeast infection brings all sorts of debilitating issues to the table, especially when it comes to sex. Just another perk of womanhood.
This infection occurs when an overgrowth of yeast forms in the vagina. Symptoms of a yeast infection include itching, irritation in the vagina and vulva, redness and swelling, a rash on the vagina, pain and soreness, and a thick white discharge.
Having a penis or vibrator inside the vagina irritates these symptoms.
Find out what works for your girl!
When it comes to sexual preference in the bedroom, every woman is different, just like every woman experiences different types of orgasms. If you’re looking to better understand your lover in the bedroom, this guide is a great place to start.
Your next step? Ask your girlfriend! Hearing your lady love tell you exactly what she likes and how tantalizing your touch feels on her is foreplay in itself!
