Let’s start with some basic facts about sex that you’ve probably heard in your sex ed classes.
The problem with Hollywood is that they make sex look like everyone’s floating on cloud nine. They move so elegantly, everything is perfectly in place, and of course, no one has any body hair. But let’s get back into the real world.
When we’re having sex, it ain’t necessarily pretty. In fact, most of the time, it’s messy. Really messy. Even though that’s the fun part, many of us are extremely insecure about what happens during sex.
Sure, you know where the penis and vagina are, but what about all the little things *the sounds, smells, touches, and tastes* which actually make up sex? There are more things to know about sex than you might think.
Here are some things that everyone should know and that you should always remember about sex and human sexuality.
1. Consent is actually necessary
This is one of the most important sex facts. You probably read this before and heard about it on TV. This isn’t some passing trend. Ask for consent. Both you and your sexual partner need to agree that you both want to have sex.
If your partner isn’t sure they want to have sex or isn’t saying a straight-up “yes”, then you don’t have their consent. This means you should not have sex with them. It’s as simple as that.
2. Men aren’t horny 24/7
It’s a common belief that men are always horny every second of the day. Untrue. Not only does this place pressure on the man, but it also has women insecure about their libido, thinking they’re not sexual enough.
3. Unprotected sex doesn’t mean automatic pregnancy
But if it helps you to wear protection then just keep this in mind. However, you should know, that just because you have unprotected sex, it doesn’t mean you’re pregnant.
Does it increase the risk? Yes. Does it increase the risk of STIs? Yes. But it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to get an STI or become pregnant.
4. Sex is like a lock and key
It’s assumed that when we have sex with someone, it’s going to just work. But that’s not the case. Some people are better partnered with you than others.
Everyone comes in different shapes and sizes, and that includes genitals, so don’t expect every penis or vagina to fit with you.
5. No, don’t wear two condoms
You may think wearing two condoms will bring an extra layer of protection and safety from pregnancy. However, wearing two condoms is only going to increase the risk.
The condoms will rub together and have a higher chance of ripping, so, in other words, wear one condom at a time.
6. You’re not going to always orgasm
This is a bummer of a sex fact, isn’t it? An orgasm is highly linked to your mental state. For example, if you’ve been stressed out, there’s a higher chance that you won’t be able to orgasm. See, you need to be completely in the zone when it comes to having an orgasm.
If your mind drifts off, you probably won’t orgasm, and that’s okay. You’re not meant to orgasm every single time you have sex.
Speaking of orgasm, do you know that round ligaments that end in the labia majora cause the uterus to rock back and forth when a girl is having an orgasm? That’s because it gives the cervix a better chance of scooping up semen, for a higher chance of getting pregnant.
7. Condoms smell bad
Unless you get yourself a fruit-flavored condom, most likely the regular condom you use is going to smell bad. But this smell doesn’t mean anything.
The condom is supposed to smell like a tire factory; it’s made of latex. If you’re not into that smell *and honestly, who is?* get yourself flavored condoms.
8. Vagina farts are real
Ladies, this is probably a sex fact that you wish wasn’t true. Sex isn’t supposed to be quiet.
It’s two bodies pressing up against each other. Mix that with sweat and intensity, and you’re bound to make noises. When the air gets pushed in and out of a woman’s vagina, you’ll hear a vagina fart, also known as a queef.
It’s going to happen to the best of us. No, it’s not an actual fart, so don’t pay attention to it. Have a giggle and just keep doing your thing.
9. For better sex, talk
Yeah, you probably think better sex comes when you have more sex, but that’s not the case. Better sex can actually happen when you talk about it.
How else will you be able to improve your sex if you and your partner don’t talk about the things that need improvement? It’s not as awkward of a conversation as you think it is. Just start it.
10. Just use lube
Most people think that lube isn’t necessary, that it’s designed only for people who are dryer than others. However, that’s not the case. Remember this: the wetter, the better.
This is because the wetter you are, the likelier it is for you to orgasm. So, don’t think of lube as something insulting. You need to bring lube into the bedroom.
11. The secret is in foreplay
Listen, increase the foreplay in the bedroom. The foreplay is what makes the vagina wet. It warms it up for the main show.
If you rush through foreplay, you won’t become wet enough, and the sex will be painful. In addition, foreplay will increase sexual chemistry and intensity, so it makes the sex better. In other words, just have more foreplay.
12. Everyone fakes orgasms
This might be one sex fact that you didn’t want to know. A majority of women have never had an orgasm. If you’re a guy, you’ve been lied to. Faking an orgasm is normal, and it happens to the best of us – but this isn’t because people enjoy faking orgasms.
Most of us dream about having them, but many people lack the connection to their genitals and don’t communicate with their partners. If you want to stop faking, it’s time to start talking.
