How to be attractive to women at first sight and make any woman like you

Things guys wish girls knew more about

You won’t wake up a better man tomorrow, but with these tips on how to attract a woman, you can make a small difference every day. And soon enough, you’ll be a smooth-talking charmer who knows how to get the attention you deserve *and get those panties to drop!* every single day.

1. Learn to groom yourself

There’s something attractive about a guy who knows how to groom himself and look presentable. It’s an absolute turn-off for women when you don’t even bother with basic hygiene *yikes*!

The world has a lot more to offer to men cosmetically than it did a decade ago, so make use of it.

Whether it’s face masks, professional facials, 9-step skincare routines, or hair mousse and eyebrow shapers, try them out and see if they can make you look sharper.

Most guys shy away from skincare routines and grooming products, but start using these products a few times, and you’ll realize how much they can improve your appearance. Trust us when we say that women will appreciate how much you care about yourself, and they might even want to hear your skincare routine – and give you a tip or two!

So whether it’s shaving, moisturizing, dressing nice, or using complex perfumes, don’t be afraid to take and make use of it to groom yourself. Of course, that is, if you really want to learn how to attract a girl.

2. Lift those weights

If you want to know how to attract women, you need to understand what women want in a man. You are aware of how Superman looks, right?

Of course, you don’t have to be Superman, but having a good physique is a HUGE bonus when it comes to catching a girl’s eye at first sight. So build your shoulders and chest up!

Do you want a drop-dead gorgeous diva to look at you lustfully? Be a creature of habit and hit the gym, and try to look physically appealing when you’re out and about.

It’s an unrealistic expectation to land a 10 when you’re not making any effort in looking presentable yourself. Let’s make this clear – looks aren’t everything. But when it comes to first impressions, they make a pretty big difference.

So if you want to learn how to attract a girl, hit the gym and lift those weights! But a word of caution, many men think looking like a miniature Hulk is impressive, but almost every woman hates that, so just work out and look fit.

But don’t get carried away to the point where you’re so large you can’t reach around and wipe your bum.

3. Dress like a million bucks

Dressing like a million bucks doesn’t really take a million bucks. But it takes a bit of fashion sense and common sense. 

If you’re not too sure of your own dress-up skills, ask a girl friend with good taste in clothes to help you with your shopping. Basically, the goal here is to not look like you’re broke. Dressing presentable and neat will attract any girl you want.

You don’t need to have a fashion degree to be fashionable! You just need to have a bit of fashion sense.

Try to be aware of what’s in style and what isn’t, and buy something you’re comfortable and confident in. What matters more than anything else is to not focus on looking trendy, but to focus on outfits that make you look good.

At the end of the day, new, well-fitting clothes make us happy and appear more confident as well. If it looks good on a mannequin but not on you, that outfit’s not for you.

And don’t just stop with the shirt and the pants; learn to accessorize, that makes ALL the difference!

4. Good posture

Good posture can make all the difference between a confident and charming guy, and a lonely slob.

This is one of the most overlooked aspects of knowing how to attract women. Learn to stand upright, but without making it look weirdly obvious, or like you’re stretching backward.

Look at a few role models that you admire and see how they stand. Do they slouch like a failure, or do they exude confidence and manliness in their posture?

The secret to appearing confident and secure in your body and yourself all comes down to posture. If you’re always slouching your back, you won’t look as confident.

Stand in front of the mirror, look at yourself and try to replicate your role model’s posture. It might not seem very flashy, but good posture is everything when learning how to attract a girl.

If you can’t figure this out yourself, learn from the people you admire in real life or in the movies for their confidence and positivity.

5. Don’t be a klutz

Being clumsy can be cute and funny once in a while, but if you’re going to be a clumsy slob all the time, it’ll disgust any woman who sees you. You can’t attract the right women that way. Always be aware of your surroundings and your body.

Ever met that guy who bumps into people or things and doesn’t even realize where his body starts or ends? Don’t ever be that guy.

If you want to attract women, always be aware of your surroundings and what’s going on around you. If you tend to be clumsy, you might want to work on this habit of yours.

Try to learn to be elegant and graceful if you want to look attractive to a woman. Remember that the first impression lasts, and being clumsy isn’t a good look on anyone.

6. Work on your communication skills

Every woman dreams of being wooed by a charming man who can make her blush with happiness. Learn to speak with a woman in a manner that would make her feel special and cared for, and always remember never to put her in a spot or make her feel uncomfortable.

Your communication skills are everything in learning how to attract a girl. So, if you want to make a positive impression during your first interaction with women, work on how you speak and listen.

While having the right things to say at the right time may seem brilliant, it’s not all that matters.

Your intonation and how you talk to a girl make more of a difference than the words you actually use.

If the words flow smoothly out of your mouth, it’s easier to charm a woman and make her want to be with you. If anything, your communication skills are actually part of your charisma.

7. Intelligent and witty

Women are always drawn to charming men who are intelligent and witty. There’s really no easy way to get wittier, but you have to understand the secret behind how to attract women.

Intelligent men who are witty and humorous almost always have the upper hand in impressing and attracting women, because they make the women around them have an excellent time.

The key to learning how to attract a girl all comes down to your intelligence and wit. If you have the intellect to hold engaging conversations and also have a sense of humor, that’s golden.

Don’t just stick to small talk or mundane conversations, but show your intellect and knowledge to her. She’ll love this!

8. Be confident

Now we’ve gone through almost everything that you need to know to understand how to attract a woman, but if you get this trait wrong, everything could go down like a house of cards.

You may know how to talk and behave, but if you’re not confident with yourself and happy being who you are, you’re always going to have a hard time attracting women.

Remember what we said earlier about confidence? There will always be something sexy and attractive about a confident guy that makes him stand apart from the rest.

If you want women to be attracted to you without even trying, you have to ooze confidence all the time. If you genuinely believe you can make a woman enjoy your company and have a nice time, there’s a greater chance that she’ll want to be with you.

Confidence is your best skill if you’re going to learn how to attract a girl, so don’t be afraid to take the lead and let her know you’re feeling yourself. The thing is, the largest common denominator that attracts most women is behavioral displays of status, aka oozing confidence!

9. Sense of humor

Women are attracted to men who make them laugh.

Having a great sense of humor is integral if you want to learn how to attract a girl. The moment you make her laugh, her interest is immediately hooked on you.

So, it’s essential to have a sense of humor if you want to attract her. It doesn’t matter what type of humor you have, as long as you’re fully capable of making her laugh.

It’s even better if you share the same humor *now that’s golden*! Don’t be shy in making her laugh, whether it’s sarcasm, pick-up lines, or one-liners.

This might just be the ticket to win her attraction and eventually, her heart!

10. Smile more often!

Smiling is such an underrated way to attract someone. When you smile, it gives others the perception that you have a friendly and pleasing personality. This is in contrast to being so serious all the time that you never even bother to smile or laugh.

She’ll never approach you or feel relaxed and comfortable around you if you maintain a rigid body language, you know? So, smile or laugh whenever you get the chance. Trust us, you can use your body language to attract women

11. Be mysterious

In female psychology, being mysterious plays a significant role in knowing how to attract a girl. It’s the element of mystery that will encourage her to chase after you, so take things slow and don’t reveal everything about yourself to her. Would you want her to lose interest in you quickly?

Even if you really like her and you think she’s the prettiest person in the room, don’t tell her all your secrets or be a needy man when you first meet her. Leave that for the first date or when you actually start developing your connection.

But until then, be mysterious. It’s the element of mystery that makes her curious to get to know you and adds to your attractiveness, after all.

12. Have a sense of accomplishment

It’s a known fact that women love guys who have a sense of accomplishment.

You don’t need to be the most successful guy in the room to attract her, but being a man who has goals and ambitions in life is more than enough.

If you have dreams and passions in life, don’t be shy about telling her all about them. There’s just something attractive about someone who has goals and passions.

13. Have interesting hobbies

Speaking of passions, another key to knowing how to attract a girl is to have interesting hobbies. Maybe you love working out, playing the piano, or even dancing!

Make a point of showing her that you’re living an interesting life, by telling her stories about your hobbies and interests.

Even if it’s something she doesn’t understand, trust us when we say she’ll be genuinely interested in getting to know all about your interests. Women don’t like a shallow man, so don’t be afraid to tell a woman about your hobbies. That will improve your chances of creating a lasting attraction.

14. The Warm Up

Don’t forget about your warm-up act. There are a hundred women around you at a party or at your workplace, and likewise, there are a hundred men there too.

Now, what is it that will give you the winning edge over all the other men to get you in the good books of your best woman in the hundred?

Well, it’s relatively simple. It’s about crossing the enemy lines but still playing safe.

Now now… don’t get confused. That was just us getting dramatic!

15. Break the touch barrier

Breaking the touch barrier is highly crucial if you want to know how to attract women. The moment she gets comfortable with touching you, you’ve already roused her interest and desire for you.

Even if it’s as simple as a touch on the shoulder, a hug, or even an “accidental” bump, breaking the touch barrier is essential for getting her to be interested in you.

But of course, be subtle about it, and don’t be too aggressive in breaking this barrier as your aggressiveness will likely put her off. Regardless of if you’re an attractive man, no woman will like you if you can’t control yourself.

16. It’s all about the eyes

Eye contact is one of the biggest nonverbal communications between people. You see everything you need to see in a person just by looking at their eyes.

Your eye contact shows her if you actually like her or not. Eye contact also shows your level of confidence. So, if you really want her, make eye contact.

You don’t need any glowing neon signs for this. You just need your eyes. It’s that glance that can get the fire crackling.

That one single glance can melt hearts, and it’s got to come from you! However stupid this may sound, practice your “I’m Hot!” look!

Look at yourself in the mirror every morning, give yourself an appreciative glance, and see if you find yourself at your best.

This look is best noticed after you shave! It’s not very different from how you normally look, but you know you look better. It’s that look that makes you say, ‘Damn, I’m good!’

This look comes with practice, but if you’re a rookie, then you shouldn’t use ‘the look’ around women until you’re confident about it, because you would only end up like one of the million wannabes you find everywhere.

17. Pay attention to your appearance

Guess what? People judge. They judge others based on their appearance. Now, you don’t have to look like a prince, but you need to get your basic hygiene practices covered. Wear clean clothes, shower, cut your hair and nails, you know, look presentable.

18. Confident body language

If you walk into a room with your shoulders hunched and your hands in your pockets, you’re not giving off the right body language. What do you want to show people? What impression do you want them to have of you?

If you want them to see you as a confident man, play the part. Shoulders back, hands to your side, and head up. Come on, man, you can do this!

19. Your friends

Your friends can certainly help you out with your self-image. Chat with them, joke around with them. In other words, have a good time when out with your friends.

If a woman is interested in you, she observes how you interact with your friends. It’s the best way to see what kind of guy you are.

20. Nonverbal banter

Tease a woman without saying a word to her. If she’s across the room, shoot her a facial expression or a hand gesture. Remember, nonverbal communication is huge, so leverage it as much as you can.

It’s a great way to get the vibes between you and her going without words. Then, when you approach her, you already have something to talk about.

21. Your energy

The energy and vibes you send out are extremely important. They’re also tied to your confidence.

If you pout in the corner, you don’t need a dating coach to tell you that your energy isn’t something many people want to be around. Now, you don’t need to be the life of the party but if you want to increase your success with women, don’t show up to the bar in a crappy mood.

22. Your social interactions

Sure, this sounds shallow as hell, but being surrounded by good-looking women in order to catch the eye of the woman you like isn’t a bad idea.

It makes you look desirable which is the goal you should have. If you want a woman to want you, make yourself look like all women want a piece of you.

23. Leaning into her when talking

Now, you don’t want to show too much interest by leaning into her right away. But halfway through the conversation, lean into her, showing her you’re interested.

If you lean back for the entire conversation, it shows you’re not fully invested in the conversation – which is the opposite of what you want. Yet, don’t lean in right away. Go slowly.

24. Show your best self

If you want to attract a woman, show your best self, because if you don’t think women watch, you’re wrong.

Though we may not be directly staring at you, we watch you. So, when you want to attract a woman, show the room your best side.

25. Your shared interests

You’re not going to find out all her interests without talking to her, but if you’re going out to the bar she’s at, you already know one thing she likes. Or if it’s at a concert, then you already know she’s into that band.

Attract women towards you just with the fact that you’re in the same place as them. It’s always attractive to see someone enjoying the same things as you.

26. Have good manners

It’s already 2022 and no girl likes going out with a caveman. Sure, you might think being that way makes you a “manly man,” but it’s not an attractive quality to be uncultured.

So, have good manners. Say please and thank you to the servers at a restaurant. Open doors for girls, and be a gentleman. Because contrary to what many people think, chivalry is definitely not dead.

27. Build sexual tension

Flirting and fun banter are great ways to build sexual attraction and direct sexual desire. You can do this both with your body language and with the things you say.

However, you have to be cautious with this. Don’t get overly sexual or start to sext with her. Most girls find that gross, so you want to stay away from that. Just keep it light and vague, but focus on the flirting.

Final thoughts on how to attract a girl

If you really want to know how to attract a girl, learn to be confident and exude an aura of positivity, happiness, and confidence.

Get this right, and you’ll be more attractive to women than you can ever imagine! Learning how to attract a girl is so much easier once you get the hang of it.

Remember just to be the best version of yourself, be confident, and the rest will follow. Once you rouse her interest, she can’t help but want to get to know you better.

About Esha Saxena Mandala

Esha Saxena Mandala has extensive experience as a freelance writer, journalist, and content strategist. She has over six years of editorial and inbound marketing expertise and is fascinated with creating wonderful content that is insanely useful and effective.

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